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Post by bakagaijin on Aug 9, 2019 10:18:40 GMT 9
Im sure this has been asked before but I cant find it so...
Is it a stupid idea to date a co-worker ?
Anyone have any experience doing so, I would like to hear your story.
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Post by thelatter on Aug 9, 2019 10:24:14 GMT 9
Im sure this has been asked before but I cant find it so... Is it a stupid idea to date a co-worker ? Anyone have any experience doing so, I would like to hear your story. Hello, guest.
My grand-grand-grand-grand-pred married a girl in my town hall.
Take that for what you will.
Personally, I don't believe it's either stupid or smart. In some situations it wouldn't be wise in some it wouldn't really matter.
Love is love. Do what you want.
*insert more cliches here*
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Post by dr. pussy popper on Aug 9, 2019 10:26:11 GMT 9
I'm not sure if it's allowed in some places tbh
There's an element of power to a relationship if they're your coworker, and it can mess with workflow if your relationship doesn't go well. Basically, don't shit where you eat is the mindset of a lot of employers. You would likely have to keep your relationship secret. Not the best idea.
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Post by miscreative on Aug 9, 2019 10:29:09 GMT 9
one of my coworkers started dating another
they obviously kept it secret... or at least tried. (they were stupid and held hands or something at the STATION that a lot of people USE)
anyways. but they were on entirely different teams and thus they never actually worked together and it ended up being fine
he got transferred to another office (he was due for a transfer and his entire team was moved from our division anyways) and they are still dating
if you set boundaries it might be okay? Especially if you dont /actually/ work together
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Post by wapiko on Aug 9, 2019 10:40:52 GMT 9
I've heard some Japanese people say work is the best place to meet people because some don't have social lives hue. But I don't know anyone dating in the same department....
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Post by bakagaijin on Aug 9, 2019 11:25:09 GMT 9
Thanks for your advice everyone. I should further add that she is in the same department as me (out of 10 people), Everyone in my team is like super nice and more carefree than i expected. I think they would almost be happy if we started dating hue. Obviously if anything happens I`ll keep it a secret,,,but yea tread slowly for now i guess.
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Post by wapiko on Aug 9, 2019 11:55:55 GMT 9
I will live vicariously through you!!!!
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Post by starbreeze on Aug 15, 2019 10:35:38 GMT 9
I have dated someone I worked with before, but it wasn't in Japan. It didn't work out, ultimately, but there was no power involved and we weren't on bad terms (i.e. we were able to continue working together although we never really worked together all the much in the first place). Needless to say, I too, initially thought I wouldn't ever date anyone from work, but my position on this has changed. I've heard some Japanese people say work is the best place to meet people because some don't have social lives hue. But I don't know anyone dating in the same department.... THIS though. All this talk about konkatsu and such when Japanese people barely have much time to themselves outside of work, let alone time to maintain social lives. Of course people meet at work! Wasn't that the premise behind OL's solely existing to find 結婚相手 (only to well, quit and raise their family, but still). The premise of OLs is outdated, but I still don't really understand why society taboos meeting people at work so much. Sure, don't get involved if you work closely and breaking it off would ruin your professional existence. But people get moved around all the time so it's almost never going to be a permanent dilemma. |
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